My great grandmother use to always say " What's good for the goose is good for the gander." Translated for those of you who don't waste brain cells on metaphors, it means that "whatever you are allowed to do, I can do too!" ESPECIALLY when it comes to male/female relationships. And why not? In these days of free condoms, penicillin, birth control and plain old not giving a damn, everyone is free to whore to their heart's desire! However, some members of a certain sex feel like certain activities are just for them alone...
Tonight I had after-work cocktails with a friend of mine who is in an interracial relationship. she is black and her dude is white (BTW, no one will know who this is because about 75% of my black female friends are dating white guys.) We chatted about normal relationship stuff, and then she brought up with fact that on MULTIPLE occasions she and her boyfriend have gotten looks that range from disgust to downright anger from black dudes while out in the street or at the movies.
Rewind to my previous life a long, long time ago (Monday) where I made bad dating choices. I dated a black dude that was a straight up foolio! I endured a 5 minute tirade of how disgusted he was when J chose white J over the black dude in "the misadventures of awkward black girl." But the kicker was that this guy had dated more white women than a married black professional athlete!(pick any one) When I brought this to his attention, he told me he didn't date white women, just " banged" them! As you can see, this eloquent charmer has no shortage of female attention.
A few days ago, I asked my partner in "hating" (because hating isn't a hobby, it's a lifestyle choice) the Boy T what that is all about. Boy T he said as a black man, they feel like they are the best, have the best sexual prowess, all women should like them but black women should want ONLY them because "can't no one satisfy them like a black man" (THAT email must have went right to my junk mail folder,) blah, blah, blah, misogyny, blah blah blah, stupidity, blah blah blah, hypocrisy...I stopped paying attention! Though my father is a loser, my grandfather, my stepdad, Dr Huxtable and Reading Rainbow's Levar Burton have helped me developed an appreciation of black men and I'd like it to stay that way!
Personally I think interracial dating is a good thing! As soon as we all are ambiguously brown, it will be harder to discriminate. And don't we all appreciate the things that biracial people have given us? If it weren't for Minnie Ripperton's love of a white man, we would have no Maya Rudolph to give us hilarious Beyonce impersonations. And if it wasn't for whatever the hell happened in New Orleans with the races intermingling, we wouldn't have our Lace-front Creole goddess to give us words like "bootylicious." I mean really, aren't these accomplishment argument enough?
So the next time you see a sista with a white dude, give her a wink and a smile! Or...don't cuz if it's at night you might be not be able to see that she is actually with a really light skinned black dude with jealously issues.
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